Life was always taught to us like it’s a video game with different stages that you should reach at some precise age. Between day 1 and 10 years old, we only expect from you to learn to walk, communicate, and to stop pooping in your pants. Then between 10 and 20 we expect you to make big decisions about your future and to decide your field of studies, with the hormone rate of an angry teenager. Arriving at the 20 to 30 years old stage, you’re supposed to be a responsible, that-has-its-shit-together adult, with a good position in a great company. There are even some of them who are already jumping into a new circle of life, that are engaged and on their way on having kids.
Since I’m on my mid twenties, I am going to write about what I know.
All my life, all I’ve always wanted was to make my parents proud. I compared myself to them in every step of the way. At 24 years old they were engaged, and committed to each other for the rest of their lives. They went to college without any financial help from their parents and then they worked hard to guaranty their kids the perfect childhood they never had. My father not only was financially independent, but he also was providing for all his younger brothers and sisters.
On your way of finding yourself, you will always be inspired by the people that surrounds you, or by your different role models. And that process can be stimulating when you aim for realistic goals. But sometimes you try so hard to fit into what you think is your path and what is right for you, that you loose yourself in the process. Sometimes, you want to grow so fast to make everyone proud that you forget to actually live your life like you should. Sometimes, you put so much pressure on yourself because you are trying to be the person everyone expects you to be, when really no one expects you to be anything but happy.
This year I realized that unlike my parents, I don’t want to grow too fast. In a few days, I am going to turn 25 years old. And unlike my parents, I am still financially dependent, I have switched my field of studies three times, and still not a sign of a diamond ring anywhere. But you know what people ? This year is the year I realized that I’m still insanely young.
No one is supposed to all have it together by now. Life isn’t a video game where you complete all the different levels without struggling, without getting lost, without help, and even sometimes without starting over. From the moment you hit the « play » button until you complete the game, you have no clue about what is coming in the next level. And sure, that can be scary, but it is also what makes it incredibly beautiful. Because no one would want to play a game if you already know how it ends, right ?
I guess what I am trying to say here is that it is a healthy and a good habit to set goals for your life and to be an ambitious person in your own proper and realistic way. If you spend more time time worrying and stressing out about your life than actually living it, it should ring a bell and encourage you to ask yourself some questions. After all, growing up is the adventure of a lifetime… and you only get to do it once.
PS: Don’t forget to hydrate yourself, and to be legend- wait for it- dary.